I've had great ideas for this blog and was going to have a new design and real focus for you in 2015. As you can see, that hasn't happened (yet.) Instead I'm just writing a New Year's greeting. I hope your life and holidays were perfect, at least as good as most of the postings we see social media (except for Pinterest disasters which I love!)Read More
I hope all of my readers had a wonderful Thanksgiving -- ours was rich with blessings, lots of corn pudding, a few cranky kids (and adults) and the annual Christmas card family photo shoot. It went surprisingly well for a gathering of 12 people, including three under age 4 (will post closer to the holiday).Read More
"Constructive Criticism" -- No Thanks! When someone offers to play "devil's advocate" or give you some "constructive criticism," watch out. They could have some valid points but they may see you through the frame of their own (negative, jealous, limited) lens. Sure, we need feedback but you don't need help gathering hard knocks in life. Most of us get more than enough.
Here are synonyms for criticism: bash, blister, blame, blast, censure, chastise, chide, clobber,disparage, dress down, exhort, find fault, knock, lambast, nag, nit pick, rip, roast, scathe, and zap. None of that can be good for you.Read More
The poem Wild Geese by Mary Oliver (below) reminds me of autumn 2014. Glorious sunny days, the excitement of the World Series, the accomplishments of runners in the Marine Corp Marathon, trick or treat for the children (and the kid in all of us).... juxtaposed with newspaper headlines about ISIL and heartbreaking stories of Ebola orphans and school shootings.
So much wonder, and despite the tragedy, the world calls to our imaginations. We each have a place in the family things.
Wild Geese by Mary Oliver
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
Recently the CEO of Microsoft, Satya NadellaIt, had to apologize for the following chin-dropping statement he made speaking to women in technology.
It’s not really about asking for the raise, but knowing and having faith that the system will actually give you the right raises as you go along. And that, I think, might be one of the additional superpowers that quite frankly women who don’t ask for a raise have. Because that’s good karma. It’ll come back, because somebody’s going to know that’s the kind of person that I want to trust.
So, if you do a good job, it will all work out in the end. Just trust him, right?Read More