If you are one of my regular readers, you know I like spring. Glorious! I look outside on winter days and can't really imagine how flowers will bloom again. Then it happens, and it's a miracle every time.
We can't really see how we will blossom when our hearts are cold, either. I blogged about the film Frozen's famous theme song, Let It Go because I just can't let go of the phenomenon of the movie, with a red-hot earnings streak that boosted Disney second quarter net-profits by 27%, $1.9 billion dollars. Just last week I heard yet another person say during a conversation about a problem, "I just have to let it go, don't I?"
We instinctively resonate with the concept of release and redemption. Each time I hear a reference to letting go in our culture (and it seems like someone mentions it every day, is it me?) I am reminded of what I know about letting go:
ONE: We Know When It's Time to Let Go-- But It Isn't Easy
Sometimes the best thing we can do when we are angry, frustrated, infuriated, or hurt, is simply to let it go. Release the feelings and get on with life. You may not be ready to forget, but you can start to forgive.
TWO: We Relate to the Havoc Caused by NOT Letting Go
Elsa, the heroine in Frozen (spoiler alert) turns everyone and everything to ice. Insistence on being right can make relationships frosty. "Would you rather be right, or happy?"
THREE: Letting Go Happens When You Stop Running Away
Elsa only make progress when she stops running away from her tendency to freeze-dry everything that crosses her path. In the parlance of therapy, Elsa finally starts to "deal with her issues."
FOUR: Letting Go = Co-dependent No More
Elsa goes on to make her way in the world. There's no pat ending, and no prince charming (well, they don't end up at the altar). She is co-dependent no more. (My favorite book by Melodie Beaty is Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself.)
FIVE: Letting Go Opens Space for Miracles
You can hold a baby bird so tight you kill it, or open your hands and let it go. When you let it go, the bird is happier, and you now have your hands free for the Universe to fill with good things.
And thanks to those who filled out my blog survey. Based on your comments I'm working on some changes and ways to deliver content that will be coming in June.
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